7 Tips to Have Inner Peace as You are Going through Your Divorce

As you embark on your own divorce thoughts of the many horror stories about divorce that you have heard may be swirling around in your head. Deep down you really want to feel at peace. You want a peaceful ending of this chapter in your life in order to move onto the next one. What you may not be hearing about is the amicable divorces. You also may be enraged with your soon to be ex or you could be in a deep depression. Navigating through your divorce based on your emotions is not a good idea as the end result is rarely happy for anyone involved. You really can have inner peace as you move through your divorce

How do I find and maintain inner peace while I move through a lot of stress and ambiguity with my pending divorce?

1. Embrace Reality; The cause of stress is simply that we are resisting reality. We do not like the circumstances of our current situation and the way people are behaving. When we embrace reality and accept what is, and accept that we cannot change it we are able to feel peace. Peace does not mean that you will be free of trials, it simply means that you do not allow them to control you.

2. Acceptance; This part of your life is over. Refuse to play the blame game, whether you are blaming yourself, your ex or someone else. Acceptance equals forgiveness. It’s letting go of the past as well as that inner urge to lash out in anger in attempt to get even or simply to hurt them as they have hurt you.

3. Be Present; Being present means that you are focusing on the current moment. You can only think one thought at a time. Therefore, when you place your attention on NOW, you will not be worrying about the future or regretting the past. You will not be thinking about the “what if’s, why’s and if only’

4. Journal; Journaling is a great way to express your emotions in a healthy manner. Write down all of your disappointments and fears. Allow your thoughts to flow from your head to the paper. You can keep your journal or if you choose, rip it apart, burn it or flush it down the toilet as a symbol of letting go.

5. Nurture Yourself; Get plenty of sleep, eat healthy and exercise. Nourish your soul daily through prayer, meditation or by taking a few minutes of quiet time in order to gather your thoughts. Each night before you sleep, write down five things that you are grateful for that happened that day.

6. Be Prepared; Know what you want, what’s important and not. Take the time to understand how the law affects your individual situation. Take your attorney’s advice seriously as he knows the legal system and is best apt to prepare you for upcoming mediation appointments or court appearances.

7. Get Support; No one can go it alone. Divorce is like a death and you are forced into making life decisions while you are mourning. Divorce brings stress and a roller-coaster of emotions. Find someone who will not only let you cry, but will help you to gain clarity and move forward in your life. Sometimes a good friend can do this, but you may have better results with a counselor or a divorce coach.