Being Happy without a Man in Your Life

There’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely. It’s absolutely possible to be lonely when you’re not alone, just like it’s possible not to be lonely when you’re alone. Being happy without a man in your life is withing your reach. It’s actually a good thing to be alone for a while. Think about it, if you can’t stand to be alone with yourself, how can you expect someone else to want to be around you all the time?

Being alone gives you the time and space to discover things about yourself, such as who you really are and what you really want. Having a man in your life does not equate being happy.Focus your time and energy on yourself and become your own best friend. I’m not saying to alienate yourself from the rest of the world, but to avoid jumping into another relationship right away that will likely follow a similar path to the one that just ended. Humans are creatures of habit, so without time to reflect on yourself and determine what you want out of a relationship, you’re more likely to repeat that last cycle.

Find little things to make yourself smile. Take yourself on a date. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Did you know that you show others how to treat you? I know that sounds absurd, but you do. By the things you say about yourself, and by the things you allow them to say to you. You can actually choose to walk away from a situation when someone is talking to you in a disrespectful manner. Show people from the beginning that you are worthy of respect and will accept nothing less.

Send yourself flowers. Buy yourself little gifts. Pamper yourself and treat yourself like the princess you are, even if that means carving out an hour on Sunday evening to take a hot bubble bath and give yourself a pedicure. If you have small kids at home, especially girls, this will also teach them how to treat themselves and how to expect others to treat them. Think about a woman who you admire. Now, think about how she carries herself. Start paying attention to how people carry themselves, refer to themselves, and treat themselves. This can teach you how to carry yourself in a similar manner.

Always respect yourself first. You can’t expect others to treat you better than you’re willing to treat yourself. Find that spark inside of you. It’s hard to think about how great you are because we’re taught from an early age not to be self-centered. Throw that out the window. There is nothing wrong with knowing your worth and loving yourself, as long as you aren’t disrespectful to others.

Make a list of the positive qualities you possess. This gets easier with time. Start small if you have to. Even if it’s only that you like your teeth, your toes, or your hair. Perhaps you feel as though you’re a good mother. Or, you know that you are loyal, kind, or generous. Celebrate all the goodness in you and love that about yourself.

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