There is less than two weeks left of this year. You may be busy due to the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. You may be preparing for holiday parties, dinners and out of town family guests. On the opposite side, you may be full of dread because of your divorce or because your children will be with their father this year. Regardless where you are, I strongly encourage you to take a few hours to really reflect upon the past year and reflect how strong you are and upon the lessons you have learned.
Whether you wanted the divorce or not, you find that you are now a single woman. You may still be experiencing the emotional roller-coaster of emotions, by asking why or if only. Let’s turn that around a little bit. Look back at the past year and embrace your strengths and how far you have come. Sure, you may still have some work to do. Right now focus on how the past has made you stronger and a better woman in the present moment.
“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go” ~ Unknown
Answer the following questions:
* What were your three biggest challenges?
* Can you name 20 benefits of each challenge? (think hard and dig deep!)
* How did your divorce help you become a stronger woman?
* What lessons have you learned from your divorce?
* What are three things that you have accomplished this year?
* What are ten things that happened this year that you are grateful for?
* What have you learned about yourself?
* What have you learned about others?
* How will you honor your accomplishments?
I commend you for taking the time to answer these tough questions. By doing some soul searching, you will find that despite all the downs, the crying and the fights that you have grown as a woman. You are stronger than you ever thought possible!
Remember your life is about you - not about what others have done or have not done. Part of embracing your strengths is the ability to forgive and let go of the need to control others. What they say and do is a perception of them - NOT YOU. Let them take their own path in life, and concentrate on your own.
“Focus less on what others think of you; don’t allow your energy to be drained by worrying. Place your energy into moving you towards a higher level. Look beyond the presumptions that others imagine and connect with your highest vision. Keep in mind; what anyone else thinks of you is none of your business.” Ritu Ghatourey
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