2) “The truth is, unless you let go, Unless you forgive yourself, Unless you forgive the situation, Unless you realize that the situation is over, You cannot move forward.” Steve Maraboli
3) “Above all be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” Nora Ephron
4) “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” Socrates
5) “I’m not sure what the future holds but I do know that I’m going to be positive and not wake up feeling desperate. As my dad said Nic, it is what it is, it’s not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is.” Nicole Kidman
6) “Accept that you are MORE than you think you are…. not less than what you think you should be.” Stephanie Kathan
7) “There is more than one road to happiness. But the journey begins at Gratitude Blvd.” Anna Pereira
8) “When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be towards others.” Eda LeShan
9) “You will experience grief, anger and sadness as well as happiness, joy and laughter. Know that every person that has came into your life and every challenge you have overcome has made you who you are today.” Cindy Holbrook
10) “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” Steve Maraboli
11) “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” Ann Landers
12) “Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world awaits.” Sarah Ban Breathnach
13) “Bottom line is, even if you see ’em coming, you’re not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So what are we, helpless? Puppets? NO. The big moments are gonna come. You can’t help that. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are. Joss Whedon
14) “Inner peace can only be reached when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is the letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.” Gerald G. Jampolsky
15) “The knowledge of the past stays with us. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.” Jack Kornfield
16) “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” Deborah Reber
17) “Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.” Jennifer Weiner
18) “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Helen Keller
19) “I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable … but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing. ” Agatha Christie
20) “Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” Mary Manin Morrissey
21) “Forgiveness is not the misguided act of condoning irresponsible, hurtful behavior. Nor is it a superficial turning of the other cheek that leaves us feeling victimized and martyred. Rather it is the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past.” Joan Borysenko
Kelly Nichols says
My husband has committed adultery the whole 5 months we’ve been married I moved out thinking he would see my worth but instead he moved her & her kids in …. I’m having a hard time dealing with this!!!!! ~ Kelly
Sandra says
Kelly, so bummed to hear this. Yet not surprised. Sorry for what you are going through but the Good news is that you are Going THROUGH it! You’re not staying in an emotionally abusive relationship. Smart lady!
Yes, it’s rotten on many levels!!! But you have YOU back, now. I was surprised no one had commented and I usually don’t but I feel you. My ex-husband of 6 years did Lord only knows what while we were married and I was so stunned when he said he wanted A divorce, I didn’t seek proper counsel, and was taken through the wringer, financially and emotionally. But now, two years later, when we speak, I hear hatred and animosity in his voice. And I mean to the extreme degree! So he either has realized what he has LOST, or he is ready to victimize another unknowing woman. I say to you… Thank God it is no longer YOU!!!!
Hang tough, it gets better!!!!! Thinking of you!!
Nina Streeter says
I read your post with sadness for you. I think you have to try to look at the positives. They are hard to think about but to my mind you probably had a lucky escape. Most marriages end after a long time, yours was short lived, you haven’t had to waste years like I did knowing it was wrong. You don’t have children to worry about. Something like this makes you wonder what’s wrong with you to make him do this,the answer is absolutely nothing, it just wasn’t to be. So you can agonise about your mistakes that you think you made or you can count your lucky stars that you haven’t wasted to much of your life being with someone who didn’t appreciate you for yourself. Everything you go through makes you stronger so make every day a new one and do something you enjoy on each one of them. Build your confidence, enjoy being alone for a while. If you keep telling yourself you are happy each day then eventually you will be. Good luck with the rest of your life and don’t let what happened spoil it. You can hate him forever but then he is still affecting your life, so forgive him and move on. Hope this helps a little, sometimes you just have to think in a different way. Best wishes for an amazing future xxx
Joanne says
Kelly I am sorry you are going through this. You dodged a bullet. You won’t be wasting many years on a loser. He isn’t worthy of you.
Catherine says
I got married to my husband for 4years and we are divorced with two kids, he committed adultery in our house something I was willing to forgive him for but because of his pride we are divorced today and he disowned his daughters and that’s one of the things that breaks me. I have managed to get a job and currently buying a house for us as he kicked us out of the house.He has caused me so much pain but what I don’t understand is after 2years I still love him and on my introspection alone I wish God protected our marriage.my kids are very young age 5&3 it’s really unfair that they must be affected but again I can’t force him in loving them. Divorce ripped me apart ♥